In my experience as a sugar baby dating sugar daddies, I've gone from orgy to orgy to extreme to extreme -- revealing myself too quickly or hiding my true self entirely; Expect mountains to move or predict worst-case scenarios; Choose the wrong person but won't let go, or choose the right person but chose to escape.
In each case, I either pressed the sugar daddy with a body bag full of my fears and insecurities or dragged him around wondering why dating was so exhausting. Now that I'm in a peaceful and loving relationship, I realize that the journey to that relationship is more about loving myself than finding him. Your relationship with someone will never make up for the fact that you feel deep down that you don't deserve it. While I don't know everything, I think the hardest part is not knowing how to build a healthy, happy sugar relationship, but using that knowledge consistently. It's easier to list a long list of lessons than to put them into practice, especially when it comes to strong emotions. I've done a number of different things to explore different ideas that support healthy sugar relationships, and I've broken them down into the following six. If you're not currently in a sugar daddy dating relationship, this applies to other relationships in your life too.
Be nice. Before you speak or criticize someone, think about how they feel. Don't be a spiteful person. Love must be stronger than anything.
Never talk about your sugar daddy's mistakes and mistakes. Try to listen instead of waiting to speak. Look at each other like you did the first time you met. It's easy to take people for granted. Really notice all the wonderful things they do and let them know what you see. If you're frustrated with each other, ask yourself, "When I cool off, is this really important?"
Be honest. Don't sweat the small stuff. If something does bother you, talk about it in a calm and controlled way. Keep plays in theaters and movies. Speak your mind honestly and talk about the things that make you vulnerable. It doesn't have to be big and dramatic to tell the secret you've been keeping. Just let sugar daddy know you mean it. If you have something on your mind, don't imply that others are responsible for your feelings. You need to speak up.
Have realistic expectations. Don't expect a relationship to always be happy, it's impossible. Don't sweat the small stuff. Speak up when it's really important to you. Remember, life isn't always happy, but whatever it takes, spend those not-so-happy moments together or apart.
Challenge ideas that contain the word "should" -- how a relationship should work, and what sugar daddies should do if they love you. Assuming you're in a healthy sugar relationship, it's important to remember that no one is perfect. Note that when you project something unrelated to them onto the other person, such as fear of a past relationship, it's a red flag, and you're trying to let it go.
Be aware of this when you are looking for someone to do something for you that you need to do for yourself, such as making you feel lovable or taking care of your needs. Then release those expectations and do it for yourself.
Learn to accept. No one is perfect, everyone has shortcomings. So don't demand too much from your sugar daddy. Don't dictate what to do. Mutual admiration and acceptance of your differences is the key to a great relationship. Happiness is a choice, like everything else in life. I choose to see and appreciate all the good qualities in my partner instead of focusing on the bad. That's the smart thing to do.
If you feel like you're constantly focusing on everything that others seem to be doing wrong, ask yourself if there's anything else that's bothering you. It's easier to blame others than to reflect on yourself, but that's often the problem. If you want to change something about someone today, ask yourself what you can change about yourself. If you don't feel appreciated, show it. It is more powerful and productive to show people how to treat us than to complain about our shortcomings. If something is just unacceptable to you, ask yourself if you would like to leave because of it. We cannot change others, but we can change our relationship with them.
Focus on compatibility. Be best friends with your sugar daddy and give him an incredible "like." Values are at the root of how we relate to all beings. So find someone who inspires you to be a better version of yourself, and always encourage them to be their best version.
If you haven't started a sugar relationship yet, do something social that you enjoy. If you go out and develop your interests, you are more likely to meet compatible people. If you're dating a sugar daddy, take the time to share something you both love. I met my sugar daddy at a karaoke bar, so singing together is a great way to communicate. If you're stuck with someone and you're feeling tired, ask yourself this: do you want to squeeze a square nail into a round hole? It's hard to leave the wrong person, but it's the only chance you get to meet the right one. So be bold and make your own choices.
Practice self-love first. Christie Emmons said, "know that it's no one else's job to make you happy. The only person who can do that is you!
As Stephanie Scheming said: know that you can be yourself and you can be accepted. The best relationships are when you bring out the best in each other, when there's nothing left to say and you feel satisfied.
So make a list or mental note of all the things you admire. Realize that everyone has weaknesses and that your strengths far outweigh your weaknesses. Try to forgive your shortcomings and love your strengths. Let bygones be bygones. You should put them behind you, but no one can put them behind you, only you.
Finally, when you choose a sugar relationship you are responsible for yourself and your sugar daddy. The road to happiness isn't easy, but this article is sure to help you have a better sugar dating experience with your sugar daddy.
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